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February 6, 2013 at 6:47 pm #71630AnonymousInactive
I’m so much at a lost. I can not read anymore. I can’t do anything but cry and stare at my daughter.
She is 3 years old. Slowly stop eating at 18 months and stopped at 2 years. She had to go on a nasal feeding tube to get back on track with her weight.
Now she is on nothing but whole milk with boost vhc. She doesn’t eat for me. She is making me not eat. I’m not able to prepare dinner anymore and find it pointless.
I can’t be a mom anymore. I can’t handle it.
So many of you are so strong. I wish I can be!!
February 6, 2013 at 7:49 pm #71632hellbenntKeymastertime for a feeding clinic
time for some tests
has she had a scope (endoscopy)?
if not, DEMAND ONE.
hellbennt2013-02-06 19:50:28
February 7, 2013 at 11:40 pm #71638AnonymousInactiveOh no, we are not all strong. One morning when I had been up all night with my little screaming baby, and just didn’t know what to do anymore, I called up a friend. It was early and I knew she was still sleeping but I said “Don’t comb you hair, don’t get dressed, just come here NOW! I can’t handle this anymore.” And although she lived about 6 miles from me, she got there FAST! I handed her my baby and said “I’m going to bed”. And I slept for as long as I could with a crying baby in the background.
You as the mom have to take care of yourself if you are going to be able to take care of your little one. When I had my second child, I went on some antidepressants for awhile and while pregnant with my third I got some natural antidepressants from a chiropractor. I know that antidepressants aren’t the answer to everything but sometimes we have to take them for a short time to help us get through our struggles.
Being a mom is surely one of the hardest jobs on earth. But I know that there are moms out there that have gone through much much worse than I ever have and yet they are still strong. My own mother watched her dad go to prison when she was only 15 years old, then when she was 18 her mother convinced her to call of her engagement to the love of her life. Several years later she married a man that controlled her life badly, never let her have any friends, and emotional abused her. She left him after being married to him for 20 years and raised all 11 (ages 3 months -18 years) of us children by herself. In ’96 she endured the heartache of my 17 year old brother drowning and then exactly 10 years later my oldest brother age 35 (the rock in her life) was caught in his hay baler and killed leaving a wife and 2 small children. Last summer my dad was hit in the head with a rock while hiking and killed. Yes, my mom had a very low time after my oldest brother was killed, but she came out of it and is STILL a strong mother today. And I believe that she gets that strength from God.
After I had my second child and he screamed and screamed in pain just like my first, my mother said that God gave us children to teach us that we are not in control in life. HE is! And if we ask Him to help us then He will. So many times I asked God to make my baby quit crying for even just one minute and although a few times he did, generally he didn’t. After I changed my prayer to “Lord, help me to be calm and to know what to do to best help my child”, then my prayers worked much better.
I hope that what I have said is not offensive to you and I hope that you don’t mind me saying that I will pray for you. But I will. I will pray that you will be able to be strong and know what to do to help your child.
(((HUG))) and love from, Martha
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