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[Anonymous]

Sarah,
If it makes you feel any better Bryce is 14 months old and still in an infant car seat. He’s only 17lbs right now. We’re planning on getting a convertible car seat soon, but we’ll be keeping him rear facing in that too.

I know how you feel about those comments. We haven’t had a whole lot of comments, but it’s been hard seeing babies who are much younger than Bryce doing things that he can’t do. He’s 14 mo. and still cannot crawl or walk. He has a cousin who is 6 months younger than him who can do much more than he can. It’s hard sometimes, but we know that Bryce is progressing at his own rate, and after all he’s been through, that’s all that matters.

Please don’t let other people’s comments bother you. You are such a great mom, and Quinn wouldn’t be where she is today without you!

[Anonymous]

Kaelyn was rear facing until she was 18 months old. I just felt that it was safer to keep her that way. She would have stayed that way even longer, but dh really wanted to turn her around and I finally got tired of arguing over it.

[hellbennt]

jonah was rear facing until 2 & 1/2!!!! we have a britax marathon & he still fit the height/weight requirements to be rear-facing up until then. don’t get into it w/ people- tell them you’re KEEPING YOUR BABY SAFE!!

if you can’t tell I’m very very pro rear-facing for as long as possible… http://www.cpsafety.com/articles/StayRearFacing.aspx

my friends told me I was MEAN for keeping him rear facing for so long. FRIENDS! (harumph). well I want my children safe & he never complained, he didnt know any different. and, if he HAD complained, well, I’m the Mommy & I said so!!

[Anonymous]

We kept Sarah rear facing until she was 19 months. The main reason we turned her around, was because I still had two months left before Hailey was due and couldn’t get her in rear facing anymore without straining myself. We turned Hailey around at 15 months. I would have kept her that way longer, but she wanted to be like Sarah, and was having some social issues with separation anxiety even rear facing in the car.

As for what others think… if there’s one thing I’ve learned through this whole process with Hailey, is to do what you feel is right. Ignore what others say (or what they don’t say), ignore their looks, their stares, their ignorant gossip… and do what YOU feel is right for your child. Even without Hailey’s issues, we’ve always gotten a lot of stares from strangers. My kids are mixed (half Asian) and people always stare at us, or make comments… they’re always looking, and I know they’re wondering if I’m their biological mother or if they’re adopted. But I don’t care.

Overtime, I’ve also learned not to compare Hailey to other kids., but it’s hard, and it’s a lesson I struggle with every day. Every day I go to pick Hailey up from daycare I see a list of how the other kids did that day. It’s anonymous and we all have a number for our kids. Every day it says that each kid ate “very well” or “well”, and slept for 2 hours, except for Hailey where it says “ate very little” or “ate a few bites”, and slept for 30-45 minutes. It does upset me, but I try to remind myself that she’s doing the best she can, and when other people comment, I try to remind myself that Hailey is her own person. I used to get upset when people asked why she wasn’t eating yet, why she still is up at night, why she screams all the time and is scared of everything, why she wasn’t crawling, or pulling up, or talking. I’d get even more upset when people would compare what they did for their healthy child to give me advice… like feed her this way or that, or “I know, my son doesn’t eat either” (ya, right.), or let her cry it out, she’s manipulating you…. etc. I try to remind myself that Hailey is Hailey… she’s had a rough start to life (easy compared to others, I know, but rough by her own standards) and we try to follow her pace, and take her lead. You know what’s right for Quinn, so just follow your heart and ignore everything else. She will get there in her own time. HUGS.

s&h’s mum2007-2-22 10:44:26

[Anonymous]

sylvia was close to 2 when she weighed 20 lbs. i don’t remember when i turned her around—-but i don’t think i did it until her legs were getting too long and having to bend too much when she sat in the car seat. that is so weird that people care whether or not someone’s baby is still rear-facing in their car seat!!!!!!

[Anonymous]

kevieb wrote: that is so weird that people care whether or not someone’s baby is still rear-facing in their car seat!!!!!!

I agree! People seem to love to care about things that are irrelevant to them, I find. I don’t know why.

[Anonymous]

Matthew is 18months old and we just turned him around!!! Maybe 3 weeks ago or so… no big deal. The reason for tunring him around is because he vomits a lot in the car and when i am alone with him it can become quite scary…

[Anonymous]

I wish I had know about the rear-facing until 30 pounds guidelines with my first two. Actually all three of my boys are under 30 pounds – I know, I have small kids (Isaac is about 29lb, Parker is about 25lb), but there’s not way Isaac and Parker would let me turn them back around!

[Anonymous]

Thank you guys for making me feel better about this. somehow, I didn’t know there was very many people dealing with this too! So.. I didn’t know that a child could be rear facing until 30 pounds. That’s crazy!

Thanks again! Reflux sux!!!

-Sarah

[Anonymous]

It’s only been for a few years now that manufacturers have been making seats that can accommodate infants rear facing up to 30 lbs. It depends on the seats. Most seats still only can be used up to 20 or 22 lbs rear facing – but you don’t have to worry about that for a long while – just mentioning it for future reference.

[hellbennt]

yeah, just check your seat

also I made a new post called rear facing or something like that in this forum for folks to read/research more if they want

[Anonymous]

I’ll have to check out that new post about the infant seats. I need another one for Q anyways. I switch too many cars and always have to haul the seat too. It gets pretty heavy!!!

-Sarah

[Anonymous]

I did turn the twins around right at a year. They were just about 20lbs……. Looking back at it now I wouldnt have done that, but DH really wanted too. PLus they HATED being in the car- it did make it a little more bearable to have them facing forward….

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