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Is there such a thing as “addiction” to Prevacid? I TRY to explain to my in laws (which I’m so tired of doing) that Ariella cannot be without her Prevacid b/c one time we forgot to give it to her and it was obvious (she was miserable), their reply was “it’s b/c she’s too used to it by now and won’t be able to live without it”. Umm, HUH?? I’m so tired of this battle already. They make me feel like such a terrible parent by giving her the meds. Mind you, they were the ones who were telling us non stop “what is wrong with this child? why is she so restless, cries all the time? etc etc” when she was not on Prevacid and now that she’s much calmer and a happier baby, it’s “why do you keep giving it to her? she’s getting addicted to it?”. UGGGG!!
Uhmmm, no! Some people will never understand the lengths that we go to so that our children aren’t in constant reflux pain. And those same people ALWAYS have an opinion about everything under the sun. And usually those people always think they know best and of course they are always right…didn’t you know?! No, all kidding aside, you are doing what is best for her and if they don’t understand that, well then, tough! I just have quit explaining myself to people that question addy’s illness. Those people aren’t worth explaining it to or the time that it takes to explain it frankly. Sorry, didn’t mean to get on my soap box but I am sick and tired of dealing with family members who are like that!
I wish that I could say that one day they will understand but most likely, they won’t…they will keep living in their “own little world”.
Just know that you are doing what is best for YOUR daughter…if they want to have another child and raise it their way, they can!
Please forgive me if that was too harsh!
Tracy, it was nowhere near harsh…What they keep telling me is “when our children were growing up, we never heard of such a thing as reflux”. So one day I got so infuriated (I mean, don’t you think that the medicine field has improved in 30 years?) and said “you also never heard of cell phones, computers and such when we were growing up…it doesn’t mean they don’t exist now”. They got offended and said “fine, we won’t butt in anymore”. Unfortunately, that worked for one week.
LOL!
That comment was great! Too bad that it only worked for a week!i am sorry you are going throught his with your in-laws. i go through it with my inlaws too.. my mil even went as far to say that she doesnt think he has reflux. i was like .. uhhh o.k?
anyhow, something i did want to let you know also was that.. i did hear on here that there is such a thing as rebound reflux.. like when you miss a dose ..their stomach tried to make up for the dose missed and creates more acid! i think that is how it works.. i am not sure though.. sooo when you plan on stopping it ..that is why you are supposed to wean it slowly.
so.. it was stupid of them to say addicted to prevacid.. but maybe they meant that her stomach is relayant upon it? but thats crazy that they said “won’t be able to live with out it” ! i would have blown up @ my inlaws if they said that.. and that would take a lot for me to do!
but, again i am sorry you had to go through that with them!Arggg….I’m sorry your inlaws are treating you this way. It sounds like they are probably just opinionated people in the first place and this is the current topic on which they feel compelled to voice their opinion. In five years it will be your discipline style or the way you dress her!
I think the best way to deal with people like that is to just be nice (even when you want to hit them!) and say something like, “You have an interesting theory. I’ll ask her doctor.” Then tell them you asked and he said they are idiots (just kidding), he said they are wrong.
I think the rebound effect is something that can happen when you stop the meds, but it is not due to being addicited to the medication. Maybe you can email Dr. Phillips and ask him and then you can fill us all in and also show the email to your inlaws. Hopefully that will keep them quiet – at least about this issue.
, “You have an interesting theory. I’ll ask her doctor.” Then tell them you asked and he said they are idiots (just kidding),
UGH!!!!!!!!!!!! Again, this is one of the reasons Oprah should do a show. I mean really does anyone actually have family and friends that understand and don’t make remarks that make us feel even worse than we already do? We constantly question what we did wrong in pregnancy to cause the reflux so, we really don’t need anyone else putting their two cents in. With my first son Luke I was told I spoil him all the time. The kid was in pain and wanted to be held. They thought that I should just let him sit there and cry.
His reflux caused a horrible arrgument at Thanksgiving. We went to my sister in laws for the holiday. Luke cried the whole time. My father in law and sister in law passed him around and tryed to get him to stop crying. Everyone tryed to act like the crying didn’t bother them, but you could see it on all their faces. We sat down to eat at one point and I tryed to put Luke in the swing so that I could eat. He just cried and cried so I went and picked him up. My fil said that I had spoiled him and he had come to expect to be picked up. He was way off hand and completly wrong. In his defense, he was tired and aggrivated of trying to calm Luke down. He really is a good man, but gets aggrivated easily and he had been handing himself well until that point. Anyway, my husband chimes in and says yeah she does that all the time blah blah blah. He had no excuse! He knew what we had been dealing with. Besides the fact that we had talked about how if the others family says something about our parenting that we will defend our choices to our families. Meaning, since it was his family he should have defended me. So, I was furious with him at that and the fact that he wasn’t trying to help me at all. I was mad at my fil. My fil was mad at me. My mil told my fil he needed to apologize to me. She was mad at him and he was mad at her and me. My sil was mad at my mil for disrespecting my fil by telling him he needed to apologize. You could cut the tension with a big huge fork. We went on like that for a day. I told my husband not to say one bad thing to me because I was going to lose it. So, right as we are going to leave my fil pulled me aside. He told me he was truly sorry. He said he realizes that was the last thing I needed and that I was the one dealing with this and not him. He said he knew I knew more than him about it. All he had to do was pull me aside and I started bawling. Not crying, full on bawling. I had a major breakdown right there in front of everyone. 
I went around saying goodbye to everyone just bawling. I couldn’t stop. We left and I cryed for I don’t even know how long. All that to say, your in-laws are not only wrong, but way off hand. They are not doctors and have not done any research on this. They do not deal with your baby day in and day out. As far as it not being heard of back in the day. That is so untrue. They didn’t call it acid reflux. It was just called colic. That is why you have so many people coming up to you saying oh your baby has colic. That used to drive me crazy. I would say, ” no my baby has acid reflux. Colic is a word the drs. use for we don’t know what is wrong with your baby. I and the drs. know what is wrong. ” Wow, very long post. This one subject works me up. People need to mind their own business.
Justice’smom2007-5-17 17:59:22
LOL Christine!!… I should have used that one on my inlaws… but then they’d tell me to get a new doctor b/c the doctor must be an idiot! Actually they told me that all the time. They first told me that Hailey wouldn’t eat b/c I was too stressed, then that she cried all the time b/c she felt my sadness, then that she was “acting sick” b/c I talked about her being sick in front of her. It didn’t matter that she was only a month old and couldn’t understand the English language. Then when we started the meds, I got all the time, “no, all babies spit up” or “you need to get a second opinion”. Then when I got a second opinion and a third and a fourth and some of them were talking feeding tube, I got “you need to see a GOOD doctor b/c she does not need a tube”. I could go on all day, that’s just the tip of the iceberg, and we still deal with it.
When your inlaws talk about there not being any reflux when they were having kids, I’d tell them that they also didn’t know about diseases like SARS, bird-flu, AIDS back then, but that these things are a reality today. And that we’re lucky now that we live in a generation where they know how to treat these things, so that there are less complications and less morbidity. Basically it’s like when they say “we used to give all our babies cereal in a bottle when they were a month old and they were fine”, or “we used to put all our babies on their stomachs to sleep”…. yes, you did it, but we know more now.
Really though, I think that you just need to take a deep breath and try to brush it off… and then come here to vent.
I’ve left articles and talked until I couldn’t anymore, and we still got nowhere. I try to remind myself that they’re well meaning and just want the best for Hailey like I do, but that they don’t have the same knowledge and grew up with different beliefs (and in our case, a different culture as well.)Hang in there, and try your best to tune it out, if you can.
s&h’s mum2007-5-17 19:26:23
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