It is hard and frustrating when no one seems to understand what its like to have a baby that doesnt want to eat. For the longest time I dealt with the same issue with my family. Everyone told me I was over-reacting and that he would eat when he was hungry. I was so tired of having to prove to them that Noah really had an issue. I’d tell them of our doctor visits and tests and OT therapy. They looked at me like I was making a mountain out of a mole hill. I was accussed of forcing him to much or it was my fault because I was stressing about it to much. My favorite was “maybe you should get your breast milk tested because there might be something wrong with it”. I would get so mad and I’d end up avoiding family functions if they were scheduled around Noahs feeding time. What finally seemed to help them understand what my life was like was the day I had to have my parents watch Noah for several hours. When they had to try to feed him his bottle, they finally saw first hand what he was like. And when he screamed as soon as he saw the jar of baby food. They finally “got it”. For the first time ever I actually heard the words “It must be stressful having to do this everyday”.
I guess unless a person has actually walked in your shoes, they dont really “get it”. Its easier to fathom us being the cause of our babies eating issues, then it is to grasp the idea of a baby willingly rejecting food.
As hard as it may be, just ignore all the things your MIL was saying. Hopefully someday, she and others will understand what youre going through. Until then, just know that there are people out here that do understand, and we all know that you are doing great job, and Hailey is lucky to have a mommy and daddy who care so much.