Holding baby often

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Sorry to hijack too, but in answer to your question….no, food allergies do NOT run in our families, to our knowledge. It turns out Ryan, my husband has felt much better with a milk free house, and he seemed to get stomach aches as a child when he ate ice cream, etc. Nothing severe, though, and I would guess probably mild lactose intolerance which is fairly common in adults. I’ve eaten anything and everything my whole life.

apparently celiac disease is much more common than most people realize, I read one in 133 people in the US….and a lot of folks misdiagnose it as IBS. My mother in law and sister in law have intestional issues which have never been linked to celiac…I mentioned this idea to my MIL who literally laughed it off. I’ll really have a good laugh if we find out it’s been celiac all this time in conjunction with the hiatal hernia and reflux for Lucas (he’s just gone through blood testing for celiac, we get results this week). I think from what I read that with celiac, SOMEONE in the direct line has to have it. But you never know, he might just be super sensitive, the allergist said all of htis is really possible just from protein intolerances and reflux in combo (and our friend, teething).

I have been thinking about you a lot lately. Just remember, with us, it was 18 mos of age before true improvement with sleeping. Hang in there!!!

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Anne ~ I just want to say that I’m just so happy to hear that Lucas is doing better! Do you even know what the heck to do with yourself now that you are getting all of that sleep?

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Thanks Anne. I think about you guys often too. It brings me hope that Lucas is doing better. Please keep us posted about his tests results.

Forgiv me if I’ve asked you this before, but how did they find his hernia? I’ve often wondered if Hailey has one.

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I know I’m in the minority here (maybe) but I DO let Aidan cry for a while before I go to pick him up…mostly due to the fact that I ran to my oldest every time he cried and by the age of one I did indeed have a sweet caring but very spoiled little boy to deal with. I am in the process of letting Aidan “cry it out” at night to get him to sleep in his crib as he wakes around 1:30 and refuses to go back to sleep…yes it’s not fun to hear but it’s necessary for me and him that he sleeps in his own crib…when he’s in the excersaucer and I’m doing the dishes, he’ll start to fuss, then cry, and I’ll talk to him soothingly but finish what I was doing before I go get him….he has to learn to self soothe and also that unless he’s crying because of hunger, tiredness, or a dirty diaper, I’m not going to run to him at the drop of a hat..he still knows that I am here for him and he is very secure in the fact that I love him, I DO always go get him when he cries, just not imediatly. I don’t believe you can spoil a child by holding and cuddling them too much but I do believe that by rushing to a child at the first tear or the first minute of crying and not stopping to see if they’ll calm down on their own, it might be teaching the child that all they need to do is start to fuss and boom mommy will come..which is fine when they are little, but forms a bad pattern of behavior as they get older. (this is just my opinion from my expierence with my older son, and my nephew)

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Hi Jill,

I agree that babies need to learn to self soothe. And rushing to them at the slightest hint of distress is not going to teach them that self- reliance or independence. But, letting them cry too much I believe, creates an “anxious attachement.” The baby is not sure he/she can trust mommy to respond when needed and becomes anxious and distrustful. This creates further and more entrenched clinginess and dependency.

Like most things in life there needs to be balance and thank God we moms are blessed with intuition, so somehow we figure it out. With my three I just seemed to know when it was o.k. to start letting them cry a few minutes. Liza was always independent so we never had this issue with her. Eliana was very, very clingy…but I must have done something right because she is independent and happy as can be now, and she has been for a long time. And Myles is learning to self soothe, play alone, and explore without me right beside him or holding him. It’s amazing to say the least!

With my two clingy babies (who both happened to have reflux) the ability to play alone and be less needy came at around the same magical age – 9 months. I don’t know if it has something to do with the increase in mobility and the drive to explore, or if it’s due to their improving reflux, or a combination of both. All I know is two weeks ago Myles wasn’t happy unless I was holding him, and now I have to go looking for him!!

Christine

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Christine, does that mean that Myles is moving around now? That’s great.

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Hi Lori,

Well yes he’s moving. But not crawling. It’s just amazing how far that boy can travel by rolling himself around. He can go from room to room just by rolling himself. And he’s fast, too. It’s hilarious to see him rolling around in full speed. I do hope he learns that crawling would be a more efficient means to move, but for now he’s happy with his new found method of exploring his envirnoment.

Thanks for asking!

Christine

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I apologize AGAIN for hijacking this post…

Lori,

We found the hiatal hernia through the endoscopy. NOT all hiatal hernias show up during an endo, Christine (kevieb) on this site, her little girl had a significant hiatal hernia that they did not find until going in for a fundo surgery. She had TWO endoscopies prior to surgery. But Lucas’ showed up, thank goodness, so I didn’t feel like such a nutcase once it was found. The thing is, they could find out lots of things during the endo– is she having a ph probe study as well? THAT test will also show a LOT– but if they don’t find ANYthing….that was my biggest fear…if they don’t find anything, that doesn’t mean there still isn’t something anatomical or otherwise going on.

What is her sleeping like these days? How many wakings and how often and does she wake up crying, etc.? What is she eating? I remember you said she needed to do the formula that she was on, to maintain weight, but if solids are happening at all, you can begin to notice what affects her and what doesn’t. I’m only saying this cause for us, it’s never been JUST one thing. It has been several things in conjunction with one another. I didn’t put that together for hte longest time and it’s good to keep that in mind as a possibility. It might not be a hiatal hernia alone, or whatever. Know what I mean? If you’d like to email me: anne coyner @ yahoo. com (without spaces) go right ahead with other questions. I really hope you can have a ph probe study done, too. For us they did them together, the endo first, and then inserted the ph probe while he was still under from the endo.

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