I can honestly say I hate feeding my baby

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Am I the only mom that absolutely hates feeding time? I dread feeding Noah. Whether its a bottle or solids, I absolutely hate feeding time. He is getting older, and I assumed it was supposed to get easier. But no, it only gets harder. He is developing more of a personality and is showing more of a dislike for eating. He hits me in the hands and face when he sees the bottle, cup or spoon. I basically have to do acrobatics to distract this child so he will eat. Its absolutely ridulous! How can a baby hate to eat? He’s not in pain, so whats the problem? Thats the million dollar question that no one can figure out. Its not like I can just stop feeding him when he starts to fuss. If I did that, he would be even smaller than he already is (below the 10th %). I guess I’m just frustrated and felt like venting after having an all out battle with him over 2 oz of milk. I feal defeated and I wander if this will ever end. Its gone on since he was born, so I cant imagine it will resolve anytime soon. Anyway, thanks for listening while I have my own pity party.

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Lisa, I feel the exact same way today after Hailey has refused all solids and eaten a whopping 11oz after putting up constant fighting and whining all day! I was just thinking that I wish I could escape this life for a little bit, because it just keeps getting more and more exhausting! For me, feeding time often feels like I’m being mauled by a wild animal- Hailey will scratch my face and neck when I’m trying to get her to sleep, pull my hair over and over again as a self soothing mechanism, throw food all over the place, hit food out of my hand. It’s awful! If it’s a bad feeding, I often meditate while feeding her and try to imagine that I’m in a restful and enjoyable place just so that I can put up with it. I also hate it and wish that it would improve just a bit. Hang in there. I certainly know how you feel. HUGS to you! Here’s hoping for better feedings ahead!

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Lisa

We are in the same boat, with Lori. I really don´t know why they are not hungry… at least Matthew seems like Noah in the sense that he is not in pain. I hate feeding time. I think about the 4 times i have to feed Matthew a day and i just want to kill myself sometimes so i won´t have to do it. Sometimes i remain calm through the feedings and sometimes i just lose it unfortunately and give up (we are fortunate in that we have a tube, but trust me, the stress is only partially less right now!!).

The doctor had told me to try and get away for feedings,… well i left yesterday to have dinner with some friends and when i came home i was told that MAtthew took out his tube, they put it back in, he threw it up, they had to put it back in, he did not eat and was cryingall through the feeding adn was hysterical…. FEEDING MATTHEW IS NO FUN and i can totally relate.

I do have faith in my doctor and i know it is going to get better. It just takes time. They will develop an appettite and unfortunately for us, it will be when they are ready or when they can coordinate hunger and feedings.

One thing that Matthew eats well is meat with vegetables. HAve you tried it? We fry some filet (a tiny piece, 1.5 ounces or so) in some olive oil so that it is mushy. We boil potatoes and carrots and grind all together, add salt and olive oil (lots of calories, but good cholesterol and fat)… the trick is to make it a bit salty… Matthew will not do any other feedings but he does tend to finish about 4 ounces of this a day… it seems that he really likes it…

Have you tried yogurt? don´t know if there are baby yogurts in the US but here we have baby kind which are made with formula so they won´t be too hard on stomach. We either give it to him plain or with some bananas or smushed cookies (matthew does like cookies)… we give it to him in his bottle and he will take about 1 ounce happily…

I know that there is nothing i can say that will make you feel better about the feedings… but i really believe that it will pass

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I am sorry Lisa. I know how you feel. I totally dread feeding time too. Hopefully things will get easier. Gabe is eating better now, but I still feel the same dread and fear that I used to, anticipating that this might be the time he refuses to eat altogether. We’ll get through this!

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It’s sad, isn’t it? People who’ve never experienced having a baby with Reflux just could never understand. I can relate so much to what you say about hating to feed your baby. I get uptight and nervous as feeding times approach, and some days I literally dread every feeding. I remember feeding babies when I was a nanny and loving how the little ones would snuggle in your arms and make those cute little sounds of contentment that babies usually make when they are eating and enjoying their bottles. My two REFLUX babies have never enjoyed their bottles, instead feeding is always a chore and a time of stress. My eyes are filling up with tears as I am writing this because it makes me so terribly sad, and I am already dreading the next time I have to feed my little guy – in about two hours. His bedtime bottle is coming up. Last night I had to feed him three times before putting him to bed because he threw up the first two bottles. So, yeah… I know where you are coming from. It’s good to know there are others out there who understand, and yes, we will all get through this. I tell myself everyday that one day he’ll be two or three years old and all this will be behind me. I just wish I could enjoy him…he’s my last baby…but Reflux truly is a difficult thing to deal with on a daily basis. Thank God for this site. It keeps me sane.

[Anonymous]

same problem. Feedings are NIGHTMARES! Hate them. My twins cry and arch their backs. It’s ridiculous what they’re going through and drs are no help.

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