I learned my lesson

[Anonymous]

I have definitely become a VERY humbled first time mom. I’ve definitely had to become so much more open minded to things I never thought I would consider!

Very well said Lisa.

[Anonymous]

Agreed. LESSON: Don’t judge others until you’ve walked in their shoes. (And even then, you still probably shouldn’t pass judgment).

Well said, ladies.

[Anonymous]

the irony of my having a picky/ difficult eater is not lost on me as i have just shed my forty pounds of baby weight (2 years after her birth) and am now in earnest working on the other 30 i shouldn’t have had when i got pregnant…honestly. i never thought it would be a problem. it is really quite scary.

[Anonymous]

I agree with the lesson. I definitely have learned it the hard way. I too don’t care what she eats healthy or not. My dh and I always had comments on how much fast food our niece eats but right now who cares she eats unlike our daughter. I have to keep an open mind about everthing and try not to past judgement on others. Because they too have to do what they have to do. Never thought it would be so much effort to get a child to eat!

[Anonymous]

It is a tough lesson to learn though…

[Anonymous]

Before I had Brian, I used to judged my sister-in-law did not know how to feed my niece,so she was so skinny. Now with a poor eater, I definitely learn my lesson that not to judge other people. When my friend told me that her son is three and still not potty train, I can only say that when they are ready then they will do it.

[Anonymous]

sharon, out of my 9 kids—–only ONE was potty trained before 3. one of them was 4 before he was potty trained (he had some other problems at the time) i always say that i don’t believe in potty training.

[Anonymous]

I agree about potty training and I vow NOW not to stress about it. I personally think it’s something internal that happens that makes a baby ready to be potty trained.

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Lisa – I agree with you totally. It’s funny but one of my sisters became a single mom at 19 yo (unplanned). When he was 3 1/2, she became a single mom yet again, also unplanned. After her kids were 1/2 grown she even admitted herself that she was probably not the best mom in the world & isn’t the best parent. Now that her oldest is 20 & the other is almost 17 & she was one of those moms that couldn’t wait for her kids to be 18 so they can finally get out of the house & pay their own way. Anyway, my point is that these 2 kids always ate well, slept well, pottytrained easily, etc. Without sounding overly religious on anyone, I think that GOD gives kids that need that extra help to parents that can help them & taken care of them the way they need to be taken care of. I am NOT saying that only unfit parents get the easy kids, only that more needy children goes to the best parents they can have.

Christine – I agree that we all have done things we never thought we would do. I NEVER thought that I would co-sleep. But as you are one of the old timers here & you know of the difficulty we had with Ashtyn sleeping, after 18 months of her NOT sleeping through the night no matter what we did……we decided to co-sleep so we could ALL finally get some sleep. Ashtyn is now almost 27 months & we co-sleep & it works for US. As far as potty training, I agree with Christine. When it was time, I got a potty chair & introduced Ashtyn to it & basically showed her how to sit on it & told her what it was for a few times until she got the idea. Sometimes, once or twice a day, she will tell me she has to pee & she will go. Other times, she won’t go near it for a couple days. Somedays I ask her if she has to pee on the potty & if she says no, then that’s it. I definitely don’t push it. She has led the way on everything else. She weaned herself off the bottle & formula at 11 1/2 months, etc, etc…..so I am sure this is another one of those things that she will do when she wants. As far as her eating…..it still isn’t the best but since she has been in group feeding therapy she has been doing better at times.

Sorry this is so long.

[Anonymous]

I agree with all of you about the feeding things that you would “never do” I also have learned another lesson. When there is a child in the mall that seems to be throwing a “tantrum” I now stop to wonder, could that child be overstimulated, could it have sensory problems? Samantha is usually the one that starts screaming, banging her head on the stroller, hitting herself. There is not a lot I can do when this happens, If I was to spank her, as so many have suggested, it would either make her laugh b/c she likes that type of input or send her into more of a tailspin. I avoid tkaing her to crowded places b/c she just cant process it all, but sometimes you have to. I have now made up little cards explaining a little about Sensory Processing Disorder and when I catch people staring, I will hand them a card. I also do it when people try to touch her or paly with her and she does not respond how they think she should. So yes, I can say that I have learned that lesson. I think of it as a slice of “humble pie”

[Anonymous]

just wait until one of your kids get arrested….or you get called by the school counselor because your step-son put someone in a choke hold until they passed out……or you get called by the high school english teacher because your son made a really inappropriate poster for school……or when you get a call from the newspaper wanting your permission to publish what your son said when he was given a citation for skateboarding where he wasn’t supposed to (and he said he was working—instead of going to church)…or when you go to pick your son up early from seminary—-and he is sluffing class. just wait—–it gets more and more exciting. LOL!!LOL!!LOL!! if i printed cards they would have to say something like this: my child is an idiot—–please don’t judge me as a parent, i taught him better than this. if he survives the beating i am going to give him when we get home, he may grow up to be a parent……and paybacks are double. there are times you just have to think to yourself that in a few years these things will be really funny—and laugh at them now instead!

kevieb2006-2-5 22:22:50

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christine–you have me rolling on the floor! dear heavens, that was GOOD!

i also could’ve written this post….i laugh at the expectations i had for my child and what i thought my parenting skills would be. yikes! i now realize what they mean by you can lead a horse to the water, but you can’t make the damn thing drink! ha! as for my parenting, i am humbled everyday by the bottomless well of forgiveness riley possesses. i’m grumpy or grouchy and put him in time-out and raise my voice for stupid reasons. and time and time again, here comes this sweet angel who gives me the best kisses and hugs in the world, and we’re off playing again like nothing happened. i need to concentrate on learning from this little guy, as much as the other way around.

[Anonymous]

Gina I second that. For everytime I raise my voice or scream at Alexis for something I think is so important at that moment. I look back when this sweet little girl comes right back to me sits in my lap flashes me a great big smile and hugs and kisses me. I realize what I screamed at her for was really stupid and she really did not deserve it. I too need to concentrate on learning on the innocence of a child.

[Anonymous]

kevieb wrote:

people who have no children have alot of ideas about how to raise children.

people with a few children have a few good ideas.

people with alot of children just smile and don’t say anything.

i think we all had things we never thought we would do with our children—–and then reality hit us.

This is just so true!

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