toddler behavior

[Anonymous]

Seth just had his 3 yr. old check up (a few months past his b-day!) and I did bring up some things that were concerning me such as his sensitivity to noise, him having to have things a certain way or he will get upset, slow to adapt to some situations, etc and she thought he was fine (mainly based on his developed vocabulary, interaction with others and observing him playing).

When giving her examples though, I totally forgot to mention how possessive Seth is like when I drop him off at daycare and the other children come up to me or say hi, he gets all upset and cries “my mommy”! and then the other night the little boy across the street came over to play and Seth ran inside screaming about how “Tucker has my toys”! He even mentioned the toy thing again in the car days later about how he did not like Tucker playing with his toys.

Don’t get me wrong, I am not trying to find things wrong with him but I just want to make sure I did not miss telling the ped. anything big either. Should I be considered about his behavior or is it just normal 3 yr. old stuff?

[Anonymous]

Does he have cousins?? It could be an only child thing, which is totally normal I think. I’m sure he is used to sharing toys at school b/c they are not technically “his toys”, the whole mommy thing is a phase I think. Griffin definately used to be possessive if I held another child or something of that sort– he would become really upset if Kevin and I hugged or if we seemed at all like we were fighting. I remember once him chasing me up the steps and Griffin got all upset b/c I was screaming (playfully) and he was like “leave my mommy alone!”

But that of course most of that ended soon after Owen was born b/c obviously there was another child permanently in our house.

And now that I read my post it sounds like I’m saying you need to have another child– which I am not! It sounds like normal 3 y/o behavior to me.

The sensitive to noise, etc, I have no advice for as I have never delt with it with my kids. Sounds like he’s a happy healthy boy though!!

[Anonymous]

Okay, I didn’t explain the cousins thing, but if he’s really used to being the “only” child even when you’re with extended family, if there aren’t cousins, it might be a reach for him to “share” his mom. I have 4 other nieces and nephews under the age of 6 so I always have someone else in my hands if not Owen when we are at family gatherings.

Sharing toys is just totally a kid thing. Griffin has just started to play with the neighbor kids on his own this spring and at first he wanted to play with their stuff of course, but he was not going to share his bucket of 40 trains with them. But eventually he learned that they don’t want to play if there is nothing to play with! So he decided it was maybe okay to share.

[Anonymous]

Hi Tiffany!

Sounds like absolutely normal 3 yo behavior to me. Seth and Kaden are almost exactly the same age and although Kaden has a few sensory issues (food and tactile mainly) everything else you describe sounds completely normal. Phases! I have a 6 yr old nephew that went through all of this. I am constantly calling my SIL to ask her if Tyler did this or that when he was kaden’s age.

Of course now Kaden has no choice to share having Landen around, so he’s gotten much better in that dept.!

I agree with Erica that Seth sounds healthy and happy. I would worry if he completely ignored everyone around him no matter what they were doing or if he were totally in his own world. The fact that he expresses himself and recognizes others and what they are doing is a good thing. 🙂

oh and I almost forgot to add- Kaden did the possessive thing with “my daddy” and “my mommy” at daycare too when either DH or I would pick him up. I am sure he’d still do it if he were still in daycare. It’s a little 3yo power trip thing! hahaha. There was a kid in his class that would go “hi mommy” when I walked in and it would set Kaden off!

jilly782008-04-21 18:13:33

[Anonymous]

I ditto the “normal 3 year old” behavior. Before I quit my job in October to stay at home, my daughter was in daycare 4 days per week. She wouldn’t let ANYONE there talk to me. Not teachers, kids, or other parents. She also did the “my mommy” thing. Now that she’s 4, I can’t get her to quit introducing me to complete strangers and telling everyone “this is my mommy Kristin”.

My daughter also has to have things a certain way. We have little routines for things like naps and bedtime. If things are not a certain way, she throws an absolute fit and totally melts down. I aksed our ped about this, b/c I autistic kids like to have order and routines. My ped laughed it off and explained that some kids just don’t like change and just like to have things their way and no other way.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like the normal 3 year old stuff the me too. Hailey is like that too.

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