potty advice

[Anonymous]

I really need some advice from you experienced moms out there. My son is three and a half years old. He decided when he was about three years old that he was ready to not wear diapers anymore. This was completely his choice, we didn’t push it at all. He did fantastically well. Maybe 1 or 2 accidents in all. However, he is not ready to give up diapers when he sleeps (he pee’s like you wouldn’t believe.)

Recently (the last couple of weeks) he started pooping sometime during the night and now it seems as though he’s holding it until he has a diaper on. Sometimes he goes in the potty and still again at night. I don’t want to make this a big deal and a power struggle. I don’t know what to do. The last two days he’s pooped before falling asleep for his nap, he doesn’t fall asleep, then I’ve gone in there, changed him, and he’s gone right to sleep. Do I just wait it out and see?

He’s definitely not constipated

Please, please give me your advice.

Sheri

Pierce 5/1/04 recovered refluxer, texture aversions, Singulair and Nasonex

[Anonymous]

Kaelyn is refusing to poop in the potty at all. She waits until she has a pullup for nap or night time. We’ve offered her a reward for going in the potty and left it at that. We’re not pushing it at all. I’m not sure if that’s the right decision or not, but it’s what we’re going with.

[hellbennt]

my niece was a nocturnal pooper (LOL!)

they kept her in a pull up & put the little potty by the bed

eventually she’d wake up and go in the potty

(reminds me of an old-fashioned chamber pot!)

and then eventually she started pooping in the day, etc….

I wouldn’t push anything if it were me…

[Anonymous]

Dylan was a very slow potty trainer. He wasn’t done training (at night and all) until about 4 and 1/2 and even still, very occasionally, he will have a poop accident if he is too busy to stop what he is doing. But, only at home, never at school or out of the house, so I think he gets it and just gets too comfortable and busy. I agree with Kim and Laura, though, and we don’t push at all. We offer rewards (we have a responsibillity chart from Melissa & Doug) if Dylan completes all of the things on his chart for a week. One is going to the potty, get dressed, brush teeth, share, etc…. This has really seemed to have the most impact because he can see on a daily basis that he EARNED these stickers and then earned something in return. Most times it is video game time, or a matinee with mom or dad alone, etc… Nothing extravagent, but the token reward system definitly works for us.

[Anonymous]

Can you ask your ped and see what s/he suggests? If your doc knows your child well, they may be able to offer some good advice. My general rule for toilet training is not to force it and to use rewards, but all children are different.

[Anonymous]

Pooping in the potty was hurdle for my daughter too. She didn’t have problems with pee, just poop. I actually think it scared her for some reason. For us, rewards were the key. She would get M&M’s for going pee and a bigger piece of candy or several M&M’s for poo.

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