so depressed and overwhelemed

[Anonymous]

Uggggh, I’m so frustrated about my situation. my son is impossible to take anywhere!!!! I tried this morning to take him and Violet out for a fun morning (there was a carnival in town) I manage to get them out of the house in time to give him a quick nurse and put him to sleep in the front carrier, I had it all planned out.

For some reason he now REFUSES to nurse in any other position than side lieing in the bed. I tried the car, the couch at the local coffee shop, the restroom of the gas station -we wont nurse anywhere! The second I put him in that position he starts screaming. I know he’s hungry so what is the problem? What’s the difference between that and lieing in the bed? Could his neck hurt so it doesn’t feel good to have me holding his head? otherwise it’s the same damned position!

He also now refuses to be held facing in, and this includes the front carrier. Every other baby I know loves the front carrier and goes to sleep easily -he SCREAMS when you put him in there. Often I can bounce, jiggle, rock, sing through the first 20 minutes of crying then he passes out, but no go today! Here I am walking around town with a loaded double stroller, a two yr old clammering to get out and a screaming infant on my front. So if he can ONLY go to bed at home, and ONLY nurse at home, I can never go anywhere!

This is impossible, Violet HAS to get out of the house. I, have to get out of the house. I don’t understand, why would he not be comfortable facing in? heartburn? A sore chest? Anyone else have this issue with their GERD babies?

I’m completely depressed (started zoloft today) over this baby. I am the only one who can feed him, put him to sleep, comfort him. He will not take a bottle, will not take a pacifier, will not be held happily by anyone but ME! I have to go back to work in two weeks, and I think I might have to quit my job, but that’s also impossible.

I need constructive ideas and thoughts. I know this is temporary but this is a serious crisis right now. Emotionally my family is crumbling and I can’t take it anymore, I mean, I’m on zoloft?! WTH? I would really appreciate some insight form other GERD mama’s who might have similar babies. What is there left to do?! We’re doing the prevacid, we’re doing the positioning, we’re doing the small frequent meals, blah blah blah. I’m on a diary and soy free diet, I mean what else can I do?!

[hellbennt]

hugs! how old is he now? is the diet helping? how are poops? gas?

how is reflux in general?

[Anonymous]

he’s now 2.5 months old. the diet IS helping. I went on an elimination diet and dairy and soy are definite no-no’s. Thinking about trying another elimination diet with things like onion, beans, garlic, etc. Poops have always been fine -yellow and seedy until yesterday he had a dark green poop. He’s also always been SUPER gassy and requires mirilax to keep things moving along because of the 30 mg of prevacid. reflux is better with prevacid, as far as the pain goes. But he still refluxes all the time. he’s got congestion, wheezing, etc. he’s a mouth breather and sleep is really interrupted a lot. I just don’t understand why he wouldn’t want to face in? Why would pressure on his chest be painful?

[hellbennt]

not sure- sounds like a ‘phase?’ nurse him lying down, pop him in his carrier (is it a bjorn? sling? wrap? ergo?) and head outside?

try nursing in a sling? wrap?

here is what I found doing a google search

[Anonymous]

this is the thing, he wont allow you to put him anything. I’ve done the ergo, moby, bijorn, all of them. He screams the second you put him in. But if you turn him around and face him out he stops. Problem is, he doesn’t fall asleep that way. He ONLY wants to nurse lying down, but I need to be out and about. The grocery store and bank don’t have beds readily available for me to lie in and nurse. I just can’t figure out what would be causing him so much discomfort in these positions. thanks for the ideas though. 🙂

[hellbennt]

try to figure out how to tie the moby so he’s lying down & you’re hands free? you’ll have to pull the fabric TIGHT…

try giving some mylanta before a feed?

feed him & then dash out the door – dine & dash, lol…

[Anonymous]

lol! moby lying down is a good idea, I’ll try that. I didn’t think about the mylanta too, I’ve had it int he fridge and forgot all about it. thanks!

[Anonymous]

I get it. DD is 5 months and despite my giant Ergo purchase, she hates it. Occasionally I’ll get 20 minutes out of her.

You are not alone.

[Anonymous]

just for interest sake, I have now spoken with two adults in my town that have GERD, one is on prevacid and one is on prilosec. Both of these people told me that the reason GERD babies don’t like the front carriers is that when pressure is put on their torso, it creates this horrible burning sensation, and can often even make them feel nauseous. I have found that the baby bijorn with him facing out works great for getting things done around the house, but doesn’t put him to sleep of course. Also, for anyone that can find this helpful, we did purchase an infant hammock and that has done wonders for putting the little guy to sleep.

[Anonymous]

Mine LOVED the sling. That was the only carrier they would tolerate (and I bought many). They both screamed with the bjorn.

We have the same problem with leaving the house so I sympathize. The advice I got which has helped me is just to let the baby cry and not care what other people think. There is nothing else you can do. Most of the time my little one is crying at home so I figure there is not much different out in public.

He starts daycare in one week too. I know that he will have to figure it out.

I am so sorry about the depression. This is so hard but it really sounds like you are doing everything you can for him.

[hellbennt]

hang in there, mamas!

hugs!

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