This upsets me :(((

[Anonymous]

Ariella is such a bright little girl and everyone who meets her are shocked by her reasoning skills. However, she REFUSES to potty train. I’m so tired of comments like “oh g-d, she’s STILL in diapers??” and (asking ariella) “don’t you feel embarrassed?”. Hello? she doesn’t know what feeling embarrassed is yet so she could care less! I, on the other hand, feel very embarrassed! and guilty! I should’ve potty trained her before Ilan was born when she was showing so much interest in the potty. Now, she just sits on it for 5 seconds, gets up and says “mommy, i’m done” and there is nothing in there. Don’t even start me on doing #2. She doesn’t even let me touch her when she’s pooping. She tells me “mommy, I’m pooping” so I tell her “let’s go in the potty” she goes “no, I want to stand and poop” SIGH!!!! I tried putting on underwear and she just pees and doesn’t care. She comes to me after she’s peed asking me to change her and I keep telling her “ariella, when you want to pee/poop, tell me” she goes “yes, mommy, I will” and half hour later comes running to me with wet underwear. We went through 10 in 6 hours and I just got frustrated and put on a diaper. Yes, I’m probably impatient and I need your support and suggestions. I feel like this child will be diapers for the rest of her life

[Anonymous]

only one of my kids was potty trained before they were 3 years old—and that is because she did it herself. i always tell people i don’t believe in potty training. i’d much rather change a diaper than clean up an accident.

she is still so young, i wouldn’t even worry about it. no one is going to know if she trained at 2 or 4 1/2 by the time she hits kindergarten. i babysat a little boy the same age as my twins when they were 2 and he was supposedly potty trained—that kid never once told me he had to go potty—yhe would pee his pants, not tell me, and then sit all over my furniture. i probably cleaned up more messes from him alone than from my twins combined. i think alot of the times it is the parents that are trained—not the kids.

as far as people asking ariella if she is embarrassed, i would look at them and say, “it’s alot better to be embarrassed than it is to be rude.” tell them you are teaching her manners before you potty train her!!!

[Anonymous]

Christine has a great point about the parents being trained and not the kids. If she isn’t showing any interest then I wouldn’t push it. I ask Cooper every morning and every night before bathtime if he wants to go potty. If he says yes I put him on the potty, if he says no then I don’t force it. I have 3 friends whose sons are 1yr older than Cooper and I asked them just last week if those boys were potty trained yet and they both gave me a resounding “NO!” and I have another friend whose son is the same age and he was potty trained almost a year ago. All children are different. The 2 who are not do have older siblings, but they tend to play more with children their own age. The 1 who is has 2 older sibilings and a younger sibling , but he wants to be like his big brother and pretty much did it himself according to his mom. If you are stressed about it she will pick up on that tension and may resist even more. Just wait until she is ready and I bet it will happen within a few days.

[hellbennt]

she’ll get there…Ari is almost 3 and he’s not interested- when I try to take his diaper off he has a tantrum “Noooo!!! Diaper! Gimme Diaper!!!”

so I try to every once in a while let him run around bottomless…or first thing in the a.m. I’ll take the diaper off and pull his pajama bottoms back up- he fusses for a good minute or two and then is ok- he usually just pees in them…

she’ll get there…

maybe when you see her standing to poop, pick her up to stand in the bathroom, close to the toilet? lol. so maybe she’ll eventually get there?

it’s HARD. and NONE of those interfering #(*^$^(#$^’s business!!!

[Anonymous]

Our pediatrician said that the earliest we should start pottytraining was 3 years old and Isaac wasn’t ready for a long time after he turned 3. Maybe it is just me but I would soooo much rather a child that tells me that he has to go instead of having to ask him every half hour. Once Isaac was ready it was a matter of a few days before he was completely in underwear with no accidents. We have only had 3 accidents since he has been pottytrained I really think that when they are ready they will let you know. Try not to let other people get to you! People said stuff to me all of the time too but I found their comments to be very ignorant

[Anonymous]

Thank you, everyone, for taking the time to reply. I will try to be more patient 🙂 I will keep you posted on the progress

[Anonymous]

UGH, people and their potty training rules & nonsense. LOL

Kade was darn near 3.5 yrs old before he was PT’d. Of course there will be kids that easily train or take interest much sooner (landen is starting earlier, but ONLY b/c he sees kade going, otherwise, he wouldn’t care less!)

One thing that irritates me is my MIL and all her friends. I must have heard things like “mine was PT’d at 18 months” and “One year” and I swear I heard one of them tell me ten months old! Whatever! Good for you, I say. I just smile at her and say, “life was so simple back then huh?, houses were 30k, so few cars on the road, so little illness, safer world to live in, etc.” (yeah, I really know how to shut them up lol)

I like what Christine said about manners coming first! Good one! 🙂

[Anonymous]

Don’t worry about it, Marianna, she’s still young. I had it in my head htat I wanted Dagney potty trained before the new baby comes, and I’m wondering if i did the right thing. Well, she’s wearing underwear and rarely has an accident, but I have to always ask her if she needs to go. I’m not sure if this is part of the process or not, but unless I ask, she doesn’t tell! She’s been in underwear for almost 4 weeks now, and has only had about 5 or 6 accidents, once she even stopped herself and came and got me, but now i’m wondering if I pushed her too soon. She does great out with underwear on, and can go like 4 hours dry, wakes up dry from naps and even a few times recently in the morning–but she still doesn’t tell me she has to go! I usually try to get her in there every 2 hours or so,which isn’t bad, but now i’m afraid with the baby coming in about 4 1/2 weeks, will i get forgetful in asking or will she just not wait? UGH, whatever we do we’re going to second guess!! Good luck with it whenever it falls into place!

[hellbennt]

Denise: I STILL have to tell Jonah to go sometimes and he’s (just about) six! LOL!

Some kids are like that- you have to tell them to go- when jonah was first in underwear (just at age 3) he would know to go poop in the toilet (thank god!) but pee? forget it! he would never ask/tell to go on his own! he’d be too busy playing, or whatever. and asking him? he’d always say no. so we had to TELL him. and even make a ‘thing’ of telling him like saying ” are you going to pee in my toilet or yours?” or “I have to pee, let’s go- who’s going first? you or me?” kids and choices, lol!!

[Anonymous]

We started with Sarah cold turkey at about 26 months. She was dry day and night within a week.

Hailey wasn’t ready, refusing, so we let it go. We started cold turkey 2 weeks before her third birthday. It took her about 2 weeks and then she was fairly consistently dry in the day. BUT, she turned 4 last month, and she still can’t keep a pull up dry at night. Every one is soaked, and she wakes up and tells me “I did it, a dry diaper”… as it falls to the floor with a thump!

Anyhow, my point is that they’re all different. The older generation likes to claim that we were all potty trained by 12 months, I say, ya right. Just take it in stride. I’d take a break from it, leave a potty seat out, let her do it when she’s ready. She’s still young. She’ll get there.

[hellbennt]

lol lori! thump!

(jonah wore a pullup to bed for a long time, too.)

l

[Anonymous]

Laura, how old was he before he stopped wearing them at night?

[hellbennt]

I want to say almost 5?

definitely well into 4…

he’s a very heavy sleeper!

It kind of just ‘happened’ as with so many things…

he woke up dry for a few days and HE wanted to stop & so since he had been waking up dry, we decided that he could try…still some accidents but not too bad. I bought those ‘saddle’ mattress pads (he still has them on his bed and he’s just about six- I can probably take them off now, lol!) so that in case he had an accident it wouldn’t be a big deal in the middle of the night…

[Anonymous]

We’re going away to our vacation home end of July for 2 weeks. I want to give it a try there, do you think it’s a good idea? I don’t know how she’ll do in a new place. I just want to tell her that we have no diapers in this house and she has to use the potty. Yes, no? What do you think?

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