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Men just don’t get it.
But we mommies understand. 
My dh used to tell me he was going to take my breast pump out to the driveway and run it over.
Why? Because pumping made me irritable. 
Anyway, I know how you are feeling and I really feel for you.
I hope the sadness passes soon.I’m so sorry that you’re losing your milk supply, Marianna.
I think it’s always hard to have to give up on something that’s important to you, and it doesn’t help when you get rude comments about it. Especially during a time when you could really use some extra support. I really admire your dedication to your daughter. I know that those six months really made a difference for her! 
Also, I agree that your milk supply is affected my hormonal type things. Every month, a week before I start my period, my milk supply goes way down, then it comes back up after a few days.
Men…you can’t live with em, you can’t kill em (that is one of my friends favorite sayings)
but I think you could insert MIL in there too and it would work. First of all it is none of her business! What you do with your baby is your business. My MIL was the opposite…she didn’t understand why I couldn’t just use fomula. You have done an amazing job with all the work you have put into BF Ariella. And it is such a precious gift to her! You are a wonderful mom and you love your daughter dearly…don’t let your MIL get you down! I would like to see her put 1/10 of the effort into BF that you have!Heather, you’re absolutely right. Now that I think about it, my milk supply is always the lowest when I’m about to get my period (lucky me, I get it every month!). For some people it’s irregular for some time but since I got it, there it is. Couldn’t it hold off a little?? And there I was enjoying the absence of it for a year
Emily, oh, but my baby is her business. I felt like telling her to get out of my house today b/c yet again she says “oh, you’re breastfeeding Ariella? Well, you’ll probably have to give her formula as well b/c, you know, you don’t have enough milk”. I was fuming inside
. I said “oh, well, she’ll have to live with what I give her” (I’m not a monster, of course I’ll feed my child!!).Btw, did you ladies notice that she’s spending way too much time in our house??
Yep…time to change the locks
. It sounds like an “everybody loves raymond” type scenario.hugs to you!!!
don’t listen, just smile & nod
!I hope this helps…(I know it says ‘wants’ and you don’t want to, but here it is anyway…)
~laura
What If I Want To Wean My Baby?
©2000 Diane Wiessinger, MS, IBCLC 136 Ellis Hollow Creek Road Ithaca,
NY 14850Breastfeeding your baby for even a day is the best baby gift you can
give. Breastfeeding is almost always the best choice for your baby.
If it doesn’t seem like the best choice for you right now, these
guidelines may help.IF YOU NURSE YOUR BABY FOR JUST A FEW DAYS, he will have received
your colostrum, or early milk. By providing antibodies and the food
his brand-new body expects, nursing gives your baby his first – and
easiest – “immunization” and helps get his digestive system going
smoothly. Breastfeeding is how your baby expects to start, and helps
your own body recover from the birth. Given how very much your baby
stands to gain, and how little you stand to lose, it just makes good
sense to breastfeed for at least a day or two, even if you plan to
bottle-feed after that.IF YOU NURSE YOUR BABY FOR FOUR TO SIX WEEKS, you will have eased him
through the most critical part of his infancy. Newborns who are not
breastfed are much more likely to get sick or be hospitalized, and
have many more digestive problems than breastfed babies. After 4 to 6
weeks, you’ll probably have worked through any early nursing
concerns, too. Make a serious goal of nursing for a month, call La
Leche League or a certified lactation consultant if you have any
questions, and you’ll be in a better position to decide whether
continued breastfeeding is for you.IF YOU NURSE YOUR BABY FOR 3 OR 4 MONTHS, her digestive system will
have matured a great deal, and she will be much better able to
tolerate the foreign substances in commercial formulas. If there is a
family history of allergies, though, you will greatly reduce her risk
by waiting a few more months before adding anything at all to her
diet of breastmilk. And giving nothing but your milk for the first
four months gives strong protection against ear infections for a
whole year.IF YOU NURSE YOUR BABY FOR 6 MONTHS without adding any other food or
drink, she will be much less likely to suffer an allergic reaction to
formula or other foods later on; the American Academy of Pediatrics
recommends waiting until about 6 months to offer solid foods. Nursing
for at least 6 months helps ensure better health throughout your
baby’s first year of life, reduces your little one’s risk of ear
infections and childhood cancers, and reduces your own risk of breast
cancer. And exclusive, frequent breastfeeding during the first 6
months, if your periods have not returned, provides 98% effective
contraception.IF YOU NURSE YOUR BABY FOR 9 MONTHS, you will have seen him through
the fastest and most important brain and body development of his life
on the food that was designed for him – your milk. Nursing for at
least this long will help ensure better performance all through his
school years. Weaning may be fairly easy at this age… but then, so
is nursing! If you want to avoid weaning this early, be sure you’ve
been available to nurse for comfort as well as just for food.IF YOU NURSE YOUR BABY FOR A YEAR, you can avoid the expense and
bother of formula. Her one-year-old body can probably handle most of
the table foods your family enjoys. Many of the health benefits this
year of nursing has given your child will last her whole life. She
will have a stronger immune system, for instance, and will be much
less likely to need orthodontia or speech therapy. The American
Academy of Pediatrics recommends nursing for at least a year, because
it helps ensure normal nutrition and health for your baby.IF YOU NURSE YOUR BABY FOR 18 MONTHS, you will have continued to
provide the nutrition, comfort, and illness protection your baby
expects, at a time when illness is common in formula-fed babies. Your
baby is probably well started on table foods, too. He has had time to
form a solid bond with you – a healthy starting point for his growing
independence. And he is old enough that you and he can work together
on the weaning process, at a pace that he can handle. A former U.S.
Surgeon General said, “it is the lucky baby… that nurses to age
two.”IF YOUR CHILD WEANS WHEN SHE IS READY, you can feel confident that
you have met your baby’s physical and emotional needs in a very
normal, healthy way. In cultures where there is no pressure to wean,
children tend to nurse for at least two years. The World Health
Organization and UNICEF strongly encourage breastfeeding through
toddlerhood: “Breastmilk is an important source of energy and
protein, and helps to protect against disease during the child’s
second year of life.” It just makes sense to build our children’s
bones from the milk that was designed for them. Your milk provides
antibodies and other protective substances for as long as you
continue nursing, and families of nursing toddlers often find that
their medical bills are lower than their neighbors’ for years to
come. Research indicates that the longer a child nurses, the higher
his intelligence. Mothers who nurse longterm have a still lower risk
of developing breast cancer. Children who were nursed longterm tend
to be very secure, and are less likely to suck their thumbs or carry
a blanket. Nursing can help ease both of you through the tears,
tantrums, and tumbles that come with early childhood, and helps
ensure that any illnesses are milder and easier to deal with. It’s an
all-purpose mothering tool you won’t want to be without! Don’t worry
that your child will nurse forever. All children stop on their own,
no matter what you do, and there are more nursing toddlers around
than you might guess.WHETHER YOU NURSE FOR A DAY OR FOR SEVERAL YEARS, the decision to
nurse your child is one you need never regret. And whenever weaning
takes place, remember that it is a big step for both of you. If you
choose to wean before your child is ready, be sure to do it
gradually, and with love.Change the locks, move to a new city…do what it takes.
When my MIL was at our house after Brianna was born…well lets just say I am a very mild mannered person, but I was about to lose my cool on her becuase of all the things she said (some she didn’t even know I heard, but she is italian and her voice carried in our small townhouse.
).. HEre is something that I do with her and it is not easy becuase so many times I want to ring her neck. I actually feel sorry for my MIL. I would try it for yours too. I mean, she should have more of a life than to have to judge how you are raising YOUR (not her) child. Granted, my MIL still often makes me madder than a wet hornet, but when I channel all that anger into compassion and pity for her, my mood changes and the time I spend with her is not nearly as tense.PS: You need to tell your husband that he needs to have a talk with her. I know he sees it as no big deal for you to give up BF, but what he needs to care about is that the comments upset you, and they need to STOP! And NEVER doubt what a great mother you are!!!!
o.k .. so after reading all these posts I AM the one that feels guilty!! you shouldnt AT ALL! i only breastfed for 2 weeks! and pumped for about a week..while the colic set it!… back than i felt like it was the hardest thing in the world to continue while having a colicy/refluxy baby .. and i give you SOOO much credit for doing it as long as you have! i know others do more.. but believe me other do MUCH less! 2 people that i know just had a baby and opted to formula feed..and didnt even give it a try. so again i would be proud of myself if i were you!
and for my MIL she was like emily’s … she kept saying i dont know why you dont just give up and give him formula!? ugh.. maybe if she just kept her mouth quiet i would have pushed harder to continue! oh well who knows? but MILs really are the worse.. even if they dont say something ..you know they are thinking it
Thanks everyone. You’re the best!
DH called his mom last night to tell her not to bring the subject up again (my doing, of course
She said “why would she get upset at my comments?” Ya, b/c they were not offensiveLauren, I totally know what you’re talking about when you say “they don’t say it, but you know they’re thinking it”
DH tells me “how do you know that’s what she meant” I’m like “I am a woman, I know what it means”. He goes “I swear, you women have your own language”Therese, I do feel like Debra from time to time
They do live a few minutes away from us, a plus and a minus
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